Scrupulous personal hygiene is a must. YES I KNOW WE SOUND SELECTIVE BUT THEN WE CAN BE.. We are real people and not time wasters so you wont be disappointed. The male does not need to join in and is understanding of the females needs and supports her in what she enjoys. I am not yet a paid member so cannot reply to emails at this time. If you contact me and I wink back at you please be assured you will get a reply from me as soon as possible.